The quest for self-love is only obtained by having compassion for the self, which allows you to appreciate and do considerate deeds for others. Without self-love we are completely limited in our perspective towards others. It is important to figure yourself out and love yourself before you get into a relationship because self-love is the foundation in which you can offer love to others. The longest relationship you will ever have is with yourself. Think about that for a moment. The way you love yourself is the model in which you will love others. If you have a hard time loving yourself, relationships will always be problematic. 

From Lesson 4: Yes, I Love Me: Learning to Love Yourself First